Forgiveness and Happiness


This video talks about the relevance of forgiveness. The doer of the action will get the results of their action. That is the law of Cause and Effect. Forgiveness does not change that. Forgiveness unburdens the person who has been hurt by the action from carrying the hurt. They are able to get release from that hurt and pain. Forgiveness is the ultimate art of acceptance & moving on.


The concept of Forgiveness comes in when an action is performed and there is hurt generated as a result. If we look at Forgiveness fundamentally: there is an action that has been performed & the result of the action will accrue to the doer of the action. That is certain. Whether the doer of the action is forgiven by the person who has been hurt or not, the doer will still get the fruit of his/her action. That cannot be wished away.


Then how does forgiveness matter or help? Is it just a sham? Why is there so much talk and thought around forgiveness when in the ultimate analysis, it does not help the person being forgiven?


Forgiveness is for the person that has been hurt. If someone has been hurt, the person can either brood, plot revenge, hurt the person back or forgive. Forgiveness is the ultimate art of accepting a hurt & moving on. The person that forgives, will benefit. He/she is not burdened by the hurt. Forgiveness does not take away the consequences of the action for the doer, it just releases the person that carries the hurt from the pain of the hurt. Someone that is carrying the burden of hurt is always stressed out and in pain.


Forgiveness is not in the interest of the doer; it is in the interest of the person that has been hurt. It allows them to start living life, stress free and unburdened.

Neuroscience of Emotional Intelligence (EI)

It’s very likely that you have come across the term ‘EI’ or even ‘EQ’ quite frequently in recent times, especially as part of corporate soft skills training calendars. What exactly is EI / EQ or Emotional Intelligence / Emotional Quotient, and why is it much hyped of late? Read on to find out.

Consider this real life scenario: A sudden change at the top management level resulted in ‘nil appraisal’ (read zero increments) for all the team members at ABC Corporation. In the absence of lucrative alternate job options, most team members were forced to continue working, albeit grudgingly. As for the team managers, it was business as usual and pressure to achieve organizational goals was at its peak. Stuck between junior teammates who were not bothered and the top management that didn’t care, the managers had no choice but to deliver results, come what may.

There are two popular ideologies to tide over such situations –

I. “Shape Up or Ship Out!” Announce that those who don’t perform may simply resign

II. “Don’t Burn Bridges!” Reason with the junior team in all earnestness about the need to perform as long as they are employed and ease out the transition process

How do you think a team manager with comparatively higher EI would respond? (Hint: Tactful is the way to be)

Ponder over the following 5 characteristics of Emotional Intelligence that would be covered during any standard business soft skills training program to enhance Emotional Intelligence:

1. Self-awareness: Be able to accurately recognize your true emotions, strengths, limitations, and how these affect others around you.

2. Self-regulation: Harness the power of Positive Imaging; look at the positive side of things and conduct yourself accordingly.

3. Empathy: Attempt to feel the emotions that those around you are experiencing.

4. Motivation: Do whatever it takes to keep those around you pepped up and putting their best foot forward.

5. Social Skills: Be known as an accommodating and adaptive person, as against being ‘stuck-up’.

Emotional Intelligence (EI) is closely interlinked with a fair understanding of how the brain works and the neuroscience behind it. An interesting analogy equates the following:

Brain = Management | Body = Workforce | Heart = Workforce Representative

Earlier, human behaviour was described only in terms of stimulus and response. However, with advancements in psychology and neuroscience, it has been inferred that there are several stages of information being filtered, by way of our Attitude before being processed as Feelings, Emotions and Thoughts. Factors such as Knowledge and Action being controlled by mutually exclusive parts of the brain namely Neocortex and Limbic region, have provided clarity as to why forming good habits take diligent effort despite having the best intent.

Simply put,
• EI is about Attitude
• EI is about Relationships
• EI is about Awareness
• EI is about Practice
• EI is about Self-Management

Clearly, Emotional Intelligence is not an optional ‘extra’ for leaders, considering the fact that it unlocks one’s untapped potential and helps translate it into effective performance. By identifying the underlying attitudes that underpin an individual’s thought process, it is possible to help them make sustainable behavioural change.

Effective Leadership skills training guarantees outstanding results; enroll for one today!

Actions and Results, Intent and Action, What is Right Action?

This video discusses whether you will get the result for your actions based on the intentions behind the action or the actual action itself. It is the intention that makes an action correct or incorrect and not the action that determines this. There is further thought around how God judges us: on actions or intentions?

If the intent behind any action is right but the action taken appears to be wrong to those around you, they will judge you based on your actions. There is no way for others to know the intent behind your action. Intent is internal and not known to others. You, on one hand, may feel internally at peace and may not be disturbed as you know your intent was correct. However, you may still be faced with a negative external reaction with respect to the people involved as they may feel that you have done something incorrect. Many a relationships get affected when you feel that your intent is right but people feel that your action was wrong. The relationship may even end. In such a case your happiness and equanimity may not be affected adversely. However, in the opposite case where your intent is incorrect, it may keep pricking your conscience.

The speaker was asked the question: would God judge us on actions or intent. His answer was that you may or may not believe in God and may even negate God. Had God been an external person, He would have judged your actions and rewarded accordingly. God is your inner self, He will choose intent to judge you.

Aananda Sutras is a video series that throws light on some of the critical questions that plague mankind. Discovering Happiness, Art of Forgiveness, Is the world an Illusion- Maya?, Does God give us the fruits of our action?… are some of the mysteries addressed by Amul.

Amul S Bahl, an M.Tech from Indian Institute of Technology Delhi has invented a unique topical use only set of protocols to treat different ailments. Under God’s Own Store, validating this ancient Yogic Science scientifically today has created a high impact alternative in healthcare.

Amul, as a founding principal of Shradha HRD, is a multi dimensional free thinking individual, believes in sustaining life through wisdom, light & urjaa (energy).

Inclusive Work Culture – the True Game-Changer

Matching talent, skills and work culture can be one of the biggest challenges faced by the management in any organization. An inclusive workplace is a working environment that values the individual and group differences within its work force. It helps make diverse employees feel valued, welcome, integrated and included in the workforce instead of unappreciated, ignored, and isolated.

When the very talented and technically sound Tarun joined the team, there already was a lot of disgruntlement among the existing team members. Making matters worse, he had an air of contempt along with a tendency to routinely behave rudely with some of the junior team members. With each passing day, it was becoming more and more obvious that he was overtly sugar-coated and dramatic in his interactions with the higher-ups while being rather double-faced and unreasonable with the rest of the team. As a result, the team began to take matters into its own hands and never missed an opportunity to target Tarun for any and every office joke. Refusing to support him in group tasks led by him was a given. It became increasingly clear that one of the two scenarios were imminent – either Tarun, an asset to the team would run for dear (professional) life, or the team comprising seasoned resource persons would collectively complain to the leadership team in a bid to lay bare his deceitful self. Either which way, the resulting unrest would be a complete ‘lose-lose situation’ for the organization!

The importance of empathy for team members, soft skills (social skills & emotional intelligence) at the workplace training cannot be stressed enough. Sensitization to such concepts can often be disseminated through Soft skills training programs. If conducted as a well thought out intervention, the target behaviours can be internalized, with long lasting positive results for the individual, team as well as the organization.

Consider these Five Best Practices for Creating an Inclusive Work Culture:

• Policies – By setting clear-cut policies, organizations have the opportunity to communicate their commitment to ensuring diversity and equality.

• Leadership Skills Training – Train Senior Leadership and Managers on the importance of a high degree of sensitivity while watching out for tell-tale signs of unrest within the team and acting upon the same in a timely and effective way.

• Open Communication Channels – Create a Safe Way for Employees to Communicate any problem they might face.

• Buddy System – Invest time and resources into developing an efficient Buddy System to hand-hold new joiners until they find it comfortable to go about work with minimum guidance. The duration may be decided upon depending on the complexity of work environment as well as the nature of task at hand.

• Community Connect – A strong ecosystem to catch warning signs early enough to tackle before the harm is done and to step in when required can go a long way in making it a smooth sail for team members.

Creating an inclusive workplace only requires the leadership to take cognizance of the need for it – the rest of it simply falls in place thereafter. It is best to trust specialist soft skills training companies in India with taking care of your specific business soft skills training needs, considering the very unique market reality that exists here.

Check now – is your workplace inclusive enough?

Intent or Action?

This video discusses whether you will get the result for your actions based on the intentions behind the action or the actual action itself. It is the intention that makes an action correct or incorrect and not the action that determines this. There is further thought around how God judges us: on actions or intentions?

If the intent behind any action is right but the action taken appears to be wrong to those around you, they will judge you based on your actions. There is no way for others to know the intent behind your action. Intent is internal and not known to others. You, on one hand, may feel internally at peace and may not be disturbed as you know your intent was correct. However, you may still be faced with a negative external reaction with respect to the people involved as they may feel that you have done something incorrect. Many a relationships get affected when you feel that your intent is right but people feel that your action was wrong. The relationship may even end. In such a case your happiness and equanimity may not be affected adversely. However, in the opposite case where your intent is incorrect, it may keep pricking your conscience.

The speaker was asked the question: would God judge us on actions or intent. His answer was that you may or may not believe in God and may even negate God. Had God been an external person, He would have judged your actions and rewarded accordingly. God is your inner self, He will choose intent to judge you.

Aananda Sutras is a video series that throws light on some of the critical questions that plague mankind. Discovering Happiness, Art of Forgiveness, Is the world an Illusion- Maya?, Does God give us the fruits of our action?… are some of the mysteries addressed by Amul.

Amul S Bahl, an M.Tech from Indian Institute of Technology Delhi has invented a unique topical use only set of protocols to treat different ailments. Under God’s Own Store, validating this ancient Yogic Science scientifically today has created a high impact alternative in healthcare.

Amul, as a founding principal of Shradha HRD, is a multi dimensional free thinking individual, believes in sustaining life through wisdom, light & urjaa (energy).

Top 10 Finer Aspects of Making a BIG Impression

What sets one apart from the rest at work? Is it being appropriately dressed, or exemplifying immaculate conduct? Is it the aura of being in control, or that of someone bankable? Is it an empathetic nature, or the best reaction to a sticky situation? Or a combination of all of it, maybe!

Exemplary professional etiquette is an unwritten code of conduct that governs interactions among colleagues in a business setting. This is an important part of soft skill training programs because it creates a professional, mutually respectful work atmosphere, and improves communication, which translates into better customer relationships. Simply put, it’s a complete win-win!

Here are the basics of professional etiquette for success:

1. Ace the ‘first impression’ game.
Most business soft skills training interventions highlight this aspect: introducing yourself with your full name helps set you apart from the crowd and also makes it easier for people to find you on professional networking sites so you can stay connected. With a firm handshake thrown in, you are all set to take your networking game to the next level.

2. Be on time, every time.
Punctuality is something that most soft skills training companies in India are having to grapple with. It’s needless to say, being on time, you respect everyone else’s time, and command the same from others.

3. Be on your best conduct, especially during meetings.
Mobile phones need to be placed on silent mode. Besides being prepared for meetings, limit yourself to the most important questions during the meeting and then follow up with an email after it ends, so as to not delay others. Also, when you’ve been sitting for a while, it’s natural to be tempted to fidget. Instead of appearing restless, try to appear calm and composed at all times.

4. Let your work station mirror your impeccable personality.
Get rid of any clutter and keep personal items off the work desk. Avoid eating at your desk so as to not risk irritating a colleague who might be sensitive to pungent odours.

5. Keep all things personal and professional, mutually exclusive.
While it’s good to socialize, walking into someone’s workstation unannounced is avoidable. Personal calls during work hours are best avoided, unless there’s an emergency. Ensure mobile phones have neutral ring tones, and do not speak loudly, lest you disturb colleagues.

6. Acknowledge emails promptly and reply to everyone on emails only when it’s necessary.
It’s always a great idea to send an interim reply to emails. Also, use the ‘Reply to All’ option with caution. If the email thread gets more specific, remember to remove people who don’t need that information.

7. Follow up unanswered voice calls with a message.
Avoid hounding someone with multiple calls; instead, simply send a message mentioning the purpose of the call, in brief.

8. Praise loudly, blame softly.
Here’s something most corporate soft skills training sessions don’t teach: constructive criticism is best when shared in private, since nobody likes being called out for a faux pas in public. Simply put yourself in the shoes of the other person and you would instantly have a lot of clarity as to how to proceed, when faced with a tricky situation.

9. Be kind – it costs nothing!
Spread smiles: there’s nothing wrong with holding doors open for one another, showing appreciation to team members and complimenting colleagues on a task done well.

10. Make a conscious effort to be genuine at all times.
A simple practice of establishing eye contact during conversations goes a long way, and one confident and sincere ‘thank you’ is sufficient to strike a chord with just about anyone in your professional network.

Follow these business etiquette rules to get ahead in your career!

Results of actions – Does God decide?

This video explores the concept of God as the giver of the fruit of our actions. Is there an external God that gives us the results of our actions? The speaker says that every action has a result inbuilt into it; the Law of cause and effect. The thought that God is the dispenser of the fruit of our actions is not correct.

For any action, there is a ‘Doer’ of the action and there is a ‘Thinker’ of the intent. The seeds of the result are sown in the action or the intent itself. We do not require any external God to come and give us the results of our actions. The action itself has the results inbuilt into it. God does not enter the equation of actions and their consequent result, this is determined by cause and effect.

Aananda Sutras is a video series that throws light on some of the critical questions that plague mankind. Discovering Happiness, Art of Forgiveness, Is the world an Illusion- Maya?, Does God give us the fruits of our action?… are some of the mysteries addressed by Amul.

Amul S Bahl, an M.Tech from Indian Institute of Technology Delhi has invented a unique topical use only set of protocols to treat different ailments. Under God’s Own Store, validating this ancient Yogic Science scientifically today has created a high impact alternative in healthcare.

Amul, as a founding principal of Shradha HRD, is a multi dimensional free thinking individual, believes in sustaining life through wisdom, light & urjaa (energy).

Why does attachment cause pain?

In life we often see that things that mean the most to us also cause the us the maximum pain. Why does this happen? This video explores the inherent connection between deep attachment to an object, the pain it often brings and why this happens.

There is a fatal law of attachment. The law states that if you are deeply attached to a being or an object, nature will allow you to enjoy that object or being as long as it has instilled itself to your heart and soul. And then it will be taken away from you. This law is natural and it cannot be broken.

The reason for this seemingly cruel law is that Nature wants you to be attached to your true self and this is nature’s way of correction.

Aananda Sutras is a video series that throws light on some of the critical questions that plague mankind. Discovering Happiness, Art of Forgiveness, Is the world an Illusion- Maya?, Does God give us the fruits of our action?… are some of the mysteries addressed by Amul.

Amul S Bahl, an M.Tech from Indian Institute of Technology Delhi has invented a unique topical use only set of protocols to treat different ailments. Under God’s Own Store, validating this ancient Yogic Science scientifically today has created a high impact alternative in healthcare.

Amul, as a founding principal of Shradha HRD, is a multi dimensional free thinking individual, believes in sustaining life through wisdom, light & urjaa (energy).

Relevance of Vedic Knowledge

This video discusses the relevance of the Vedas in our life today. It explains the different parts of the Vedas and how the study of the first three parts can lead to external happiness or the improvement in the quality of our external life. However, the fourth part of the Vedas is meant for seekers of Happiness within and the study of this portion leads us to discover our natural state, which is happiness. This video series deals with what is written in the fourth part of the Vedas. The language used is not from the Vedas; it uses language we easily understand today.

The goal of mankind is happiness which is to discover its natural state. There are four Vedas and each Veda has four parts. The first three parts of each Veda (i.e. twelve parts in total) are a compilation of knowledge and experiences of various Sages and masters who were experts in their own field. These tell us as to how a situation in external environment can give man happiness; how Man needs to interact with nature become Ayurveda, how man interacts with man becomes Political Science etc.

Ayurveda is one aspect where we deal with how plants and other things that are found in nature could be used to bring wellness to man. There are certain Mantras in the first three parts which are meant to increase our happiness from the world outside.

However, some people, even after having accumulated external factors that contribute to happiness like health, wealth etc. do not feel completely fulfilled and happy. The fourth part of the Veda is meant for such people. It is the portion that deals with how to discover Happiness internally.

The fourth part of the Vedas has the 108 Upanishads. Assuming that each Upanishad is one way, then there are 108 ways to discover happiness. Each of these Upanishads teaches us how to remove the cloud and discover happiness internally and not accumulate it externally…So we are dealing with the topics of the fourth portion of Vedas more, their various aspects, their mechanisms.

Aananda Sutras is a video series that throws light on some of the critical questions that plague mankind. Discovering Happiness, Art of Forgiveness, Is the world an Illusion- Maya?, Does God give us the fruits of our action?… are some of the mysteries addressed by Amul.

Amul S Bahl, an M.Tech from Indian Institute of Technology Delhi has invented a unique topical use only set of protocols to treat different ailments. Under God’s Own Store, validating this ancient Yogic Science scientifically today has created a high impact alternative in healthcare.

Amul, as a founding principal of Shradha HRD, is a multi dimensional free thinking individual, believes in sustaining life through wisdom, light & urjaa (energy).

Blueprint for Happiness – Part 8

We now come to the final portion of the Blueprint of Happiness. If we have set a goal according to the 2 conditions discussed so far and performed the right actions to work towards the goal, how should I behave if the results are not in line with my expectations? What kind of an attitude should I work with to be able to achieve my goals?

Part 08 of the Blueprint of Happiness series talks about the attitude of “Prasada Buddhi” to accept unfavorable results in life.

So far we thought that we need to add ‘things’, a car, a house, a holiday etc… to ‘become happy’. Now we know that we need to discover Happiness, which is our natural state. To do that we need to set our life goals based on the two conditions discussed & perform actions that lead to fulfilment of our goals. If on the way we get results as per expectations or exceeding expectations, it makes us happy and motivates us to work with greater vigor. If we get results which are less than what we expected, how do we deal with this unhappy situation?

This video discusses a simple technique called ‘Prasada Buddhi’ or the the art of acceptance to handle such eventualities. We perform actions to the best of our ability and accept the results as a blessing from the Lord. This attitude will help us accept unfavorable results and continue to work with renewed vigor. The concept of Prasada Buddhi has been explained with the help of a simple yet powerful corollary of going to the temple to pray.

When we work with the attitude of ‘Prasada Buddhi’, it reduces the cloud that veils our natural state of Happiness. It allows us to continue to work with renewed vigor and vitality, even when faced with unfavorable results. This helps us remove the cloud in our mind and discover Happiness which is our natural state.

Aananda Sutras is a video series that throws light on some of the critical questions that plague mankind. Discovering Happiness, Art of Forgiveness, Is the world an Illusion- Maya?, Does God give us the fruits of our action?… are some of the mysteries addressed by Amul.

Amul S Bahl, an M.Tech from Indian Institute of Technology Delhi has invented a unique topical use only set of protocols to treat different ailments. Under God’s Own Store, validating this ancient Yogic Science scientifically today has created a high impact alternative in healthcare.

Amul, as a founding principal of Shradha HRD, is a multi dimensional free thinking individual, believes in sustaining life through wisdom, light & urjaa (energy).